These are answers from our Get consultants, Rabbi Aryeh Klapper and Dr. Rachel Levmore.
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My girlfriend is Jewish and was raised in a Conservative home. She had four years ago been married in the courthouse to a Jewish man. According to her they both conducted a secular marriage in which the traditions were not followed. This is one reason she wants to divorce him. The other, is that the man has denied her sexual relations for over four months. Since I want her and I to be married by a Conservative rabbi after she divorces civilly, will the Conservative rabbi insist on a get even though the original marriage was civil?
I am jew from ex-Soviet Union. Married a jewish man in 1988 in civil ceremony, since that is only one was available there. Never had chuppah or Ketuba. Lived with him for 8 years, have son. We split 20 years ago and now I want to get married, but Rabbi telling me I need get. Is it possible to have a chuppah now without getting get? I have not been with my ex for 20 years, our son is grown man, there is no property or money issue involved, but my ex has a bad character and would to anything just out of spite in order not to let me move on. Please let me know if it is any way I can avoid getting get from him. Thank you for your help.
I need advice please.. I have a daughter who married a man who was discovered to be on heroin . He has been on heroin before the marriage and this was not disclosed in any case. They have a child together, she divorced her husband when the child was 6 months old. We've been to the bet din on many occasions with no progress . Is this a case which the marriage was made in error , just like the story about the bisexual case . If she had known , she would have never agreed to the marriage at all.,could this marriage be considered void? Please , she is a young single mother looking to re- marry . if there are any holocha , that you of please , please let me know . the child is now 4/years old ,so that's how long they've been divorced.. This marriage took place in America ( Sephardic). Thank you so much!
If a man gives his wife a get through a shliach...only because they do not wish to see each other....at the time of the writing of the get is it okay for the woman to be in the same neighborhood or does she have to go to another boro, like if the get is being written in brooklyn should she go to Manhattan for the duration of the writing?
Hello, I have been separated from my common law husband from a year and he refused to give me a get on grounds that he didnt have money to pay for the ketubah. I waived the ketubah and filed for the get. Shortly thereafter he was imprisoned for a felony, in another country. Even when my Rav told me I can receive my get through a sheliach, I'm really afraid to remain an agunah. What can I do to help my process? It is in South America.
Please explain, if the ketubah is a binding document, with witnesses signing that the husband made certain promises to his wife, then if he fails to fulfill those promises why doesn't that automatically result in a get al pi halacha?
Thank you for your response. Can you please explain to me what purpose the ketubah serves if the promises contained therein are unenforceable? Even not looking at the issue of divorce, what if the husband spends all his money on himself and nothing on his wife, refuses (or neglects) to sleep with her, etc.? Why have the ketubah if there is no recourse when the husband doesn't fulfill it?
My ex-husband has offered me a GET, however he is ignoring a judges decision underpaying my alimony, and so I have not accepted the GET yet. I am willing to do so once he lives up to his responsibilities. If my ex husband manages to dissolve our Jewish Marriage prior to my accepting of the GET, where does that leave me?
I'm in a relationship where I'm preparing to offer my wife a get but I expect to have an uphill battle with her accepting it. What are my options in this quite awkward situation? There won't be any custody disputes, financial support, anything, outside of pettiness, to prevent her from accepting, and as the relationship I hope to be in is outside the faith, it will not be a deterrent to me one way or the other. I truly wish to do what is best by her and the children - but will not let a document that effects her deter me.